This week is National Infertility Awareness Week. I, am not technically infertile, and neither is my friend Lori, who wrote about it as well. But we both have different health situations that will not allow us to safely carry a child. Infertility comes in many forms and different situations. But in the end, every situation involves the heartbreaking desire for a child and a deep sense of loss of control. I know a lot of people who are dealing with, or have dealt with infertility. One of them is my mom. Both my mom and I have lost friends in the process of dealing with infertility. Someone said my mom didn't want to ruin her perfect figure. One person said I hate babies and that I "effed-up my own life." They were both our best friends. Infertility is a hard thing to swallow. It's painful, and it's complicated. If you're unfamiliar with infertility I encourage you, just for this week, to hop over to The R House. She is featuring a different woman and a different journey each day this week. It may widen your perspective, or it may make you feel better.
My journey is just beginning, but already I have experienced every one of these "what if's" and it was my goal this year to change all of my "what if's" to the ones at the end of the video.
What IF? A Portrait of Infertility from Keiko Zoll on Vimeo.
What if we all became a little more aware and a little more empathetic to infertility issues. What if we kept our promise to mourn with those who mourn and comfort those who stand in need of comfort? What if it eased the pain just a little?
Update: One of my friends posted this link about infertility etiquette. If your unsure about what to say or how to act around those struggling with infertility issues, here are some helpful tips about what not to do, and what to do to offer your support.
And to said former best friend, if you make a mean comment I will egg your half-of-a house and your stupid ricer. Don't. Even. Think. About. It.